Making Changes In Your Life
“Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.” ― Maya Angelou
We are in a constant state of change. Even in our bodies, our cells die and regenerate in just the few seconds you’ve been reading this, your body has changed significantly. Everything and every one around us are changing, moving and adapting. Nothing is static.
As a human, we crave stability we long for security, even though it really doesn’t exist. The healthiest people still catch a cold, wealthy people can go bankrupt in just a short time, and even the best relationships eventually come to an end. Seasons change.
Thanks to evolution, there is a reason why your brain resists making changes in your life. It’s number one job is to keep you alive. So, at the end of the day, if you’re still breathing, kicking and full of diva, your brain considers it a job well done and falls into the pattern of oh we lived today because we did x and x, we should do it again tomorrow. There is a much longer explanation to this and I will save it for a later post, but you get the idea, right?
This is the reason why a lot of us easily fall into what seems to others as being self-sabotaging and unhealthy behaviors. We know deep down that the things we are doing aren’t good for us, but we have so much trouble sticking to change.
As your coach, I have to be able to help you see that change is not your enemy, even when your mind is telling you otherwise. I do this by asking questions that will help you think differently. These questions are meant to shift your mindset and create a new outlook on your life.
One of the easiest changes to commit to changing is to change your language. By this, I mean changing how you talk to yourself. This doesn’t mean that you have to be positive 24/7, but that you make an active effort to pay attention to your self talk. This is the quickest and easiest way to begin to make progress toward your goals.
Your language, both how you chatter to yourself internally and externally how to communicate with others is a direct result of your thoughts. So, if you change your language, you by default change your thoughts. This change can make a huge difference in your life with an active effort to keep it in check.